Selective Environment

My younger self accepted all and took all that was handed to me. I was a kid, after all and that is how kids function. School I went to was the closest, both in Belarus and in Connecticut. Friends were neighbors who lived at the same apartment building or people I shared classroom and lunch tables. As I moved into another state during college things became more vivid and selective. Should I go to party "A" or "B"? Decisions became a lot more complex because I was somewhat enough of an adult to start seeing some consequences. My encounters were still proximity based but I was at least aware of this fact.
Today, I live in a place I deliberately chose, with a person I am fully invested in my life. I work at a place and do things more consciously. This is also the reason I do not automatically accept friend requests from one-time encounters. My interactions, and absence of them, are becoming more important. I have no need to cross off 100 things of my list of things to do. Instead, I try to focus on a handful of check-boxes that matter to me. It is a work in progress.